Life Together

All day long we are, in some degree, helping each other to our destinies. It is in light of these overwhelming possibilities, it is with the awe and circumspection proper to them, that we should conduct all our dealings with one another, all friendships, all loves, all play, all politics. There are no ordinary people. You have never talked to a mere mortal. Nations, cultures, and civilizations – these are mortal, and their life is to ours as the life of a gnat. But it is immortals whom we joke with, work with, marry, snub and exploit – immortal horrors or everlasting splendors. This does not mean that we are to be perpetually solemn. We must play. But our merriment must be of the kind which exists between people who have, from the outset, taken each other seriously. And our charity must be a real and costly love. Next to the blessed Sacrament itself, your neighbor is the
holiest object presented to your senses.
C.S. Lewis, Through Joy and Beyond

Holy Cross is more than a place where people gather on Sunday mornings for worship. We are a family brought together by God. We enjoy one another’s company – inside and outside of the church — whether it be for choir rehearsal, to meet people in the greater community, to build relationships with those served by outreach, to break bread together, or to play cards. Some of us have been friends for over thirty years, some of us are forging new friendships every week. We are always on the lookout for new ways to strengthen the ties that bind us, and to draw the circle wider.


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    Here are just a few examples of life together.

    Congregation B’nai Tikvah

    Congregation Bnai TikvahOne very special aspect of our life together is a growing relationship with Jewish space-sharing neighbors in faith. As space-sharing partners in Carlsbad, CA, Congregation B’nai Tikvah and Holy Cross Episcopal Church operate independently and autonomously. We consult one another in the use of shared space, and will soon begin to share certain outreach and educational ministries. Each congregation strives to nurture communities grounded in shalom (peace). We enjoy working side by side, supporting one another’s worship and ministries, and look forward to developing deeper connections. In a world where religion too often divides people, we strive to bear witness to unity that is grounded in love of G-d, lived with respect and dignity for all of creation, and expressed in bonds of mutual affection.

    Congregation B’nai Tikvah meets on Friday nights and Saturday morning, and their Hebrew School meets on Tuesday afternoons. Sharing our blend of traditional worship and social acceptance, Congregation B’nai Tikvah is a place for “Jews of diverse backgrounds to come together for prayer, spiritual renewal and community in a multi-generational, enriching environment.” For more information:


    We have two active card groups at Holy Cross. The Bridge Club meets on the first Sunday of the month at 6:30 p.m., usually at Holy Cross. We have two or three tables and share a snack between rounds. The Sheepshead card group meets most 2nd and 4th Tuesdays of the month from 1:30-3:00 p.m. at Holy Cross. Our oldest member, who is now 101 years old, remembers playing this game in his younger years in Chicago. If you want to learn a new card game or hone your skills at bridge or sheepshead, contact Holy Cross. We are always looking for new players!

    Community Events

    We look for opportunities to be good neighbors in Carlsbad and the surrounding cities of North San Diego County. For the past several years, we have had a booth at the Carlsbad Street Faire (first Sundays in May and November), and in 2016, we shared a booth with Congregation B’nai Tikvah. The year 2016 also marked our inaugural participation in Pride by the Beach, sponsored by the North County LGBTQ Resource Center. Several in our congregation, and two of our priests, are active members of the Carlsbad Hi-Noon Rotary Club.

    Social Get-Togethers

    guys-gatheringAt least once a year, usually in conjunction with Holy Cross Day, one of our parishioners hosts a barbecue at their home. We have a Guy’s Group that meets a couple of times a year to BBQ over “guy talk.” We enjoy getting together for a meal in a local restaurant from time to time.


    We have a small, active adult choir that meets to sing weekly at the home of one of our members. We love to sing together, and enjoy branching out into different forms of music, according to the talents and interests of our members. Our future plans include a children’s and youth choir.

    Academy of ___________ (Whatever)!

    life-together-padres-gameThe Academy of Whatever started in late 2014 to link people from Holy Cross who have common interests. So far, we have over twenty interests, ranging from photography to painting, home brewing beer to bread-baking, gardening to golf, reading to writing, car shows to card-playing. People pair up or gather in groups to do what they love to do! On Thursday mornings before Bible Study, Betty taught Grant to dance. If you are interested in learning or sharing a talent, please contact Holy Cross.

    New Member Orientation

    Twice a year, we host new members of Holy Cross at a social gathering in members’ homes. In a more intimate setting, we share Holy Cross’ story, describe our mission, ministries and organization, and invite conversation about future mission and ministry. This one-on-one gathering provides more information and background to new members, and gives us all a chance to learn more about each other.